I will follow my values and my conscience, even if it upsets other people.
I’m not a puppet. I am a living and breathing person and I have my own likes, dislikes, wants and needs.
It’s not my job to make everyone happy.
I will no longer please people just to stay out of conflict. Conflict is a necessary part of life. It’s just a moment in time, it won’t last forever. This too shall pass.
I will no longer neglect my own needs.
It’s not only my responsibility to make a relationship work. The other person has equal responsibility.
I will establish personal boundaries and enforce them. It’s ok if this will make people angry, sad or disappointed with me.
If a conflict arises, I will stay calm like a rock in the ocean. The waves of anger and disappointment that crash into me can’t harm me and I am not going to back down.
I will stop obsessing about peoples thoughts and feelings about me.
I will stop trying to read other peoples minds or feel their feelings.
I will no longer participate in other peoples drama.
I am ok with others not getting what they thought they would get from me. It’s ok if I don’t meet their expactations.
I can’t control other peoples words and actions. I am only responsible for my own words and actions.
I accept others just as they are and don’t try to change them.
I am not inferior to other people, I am equal and I deserve to be treated with respect.
I will no longer put other peoples needs before my own.
I will no longer compromise my values in order to get approval from others.
I will no longer try to fix, rescue or save people from their bad choices. It’s not my job to repair other peoples lifes or to solve their problems.
I will no longer give unsolicited advice.
I will no longer feel guilty when I say “no”. I don’t need to do things just out of obligation.
I will no longer give in to an abusive person just to keep the peace.
Question: Would you like to add something to this manifesto? Please tell me in the comments!
Until next time,
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